5 Things Every Care-giver should know





'Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.' -K.Gibran



We love it, don't we, when our lives fit our well-organised and neatly laid out plans and dreams? Every year, thousands of planners, diaries and calendars are bought in an attempt to organise, control, even automate, our lives. We've been told that being successful in life depends on our ability to determine our goals, plan our life and lead it in an organised, productive way.


But what about those times when life falls apart, when circumstances beyond our control, cause us to throw our plans out the window? It's overwhelming.


Maybe you can relate to the situations that Michael and Nadia confronted.





Michael's dad loved spending time outdoors, keeping his yard tidy and working in his veggie garden. But he noticed his elderly father was having trouble doing some of these tasks. He was becoming increasingly tired, even breathless, doing simple jobs. So, he started pitching in more. He would spend his weekends cleaning his dad’s gutters and mowing the lawn. As time went on, he started to do more and more for his father. Soon, he found himself handling his father’s errands then his laundry and meals.


Nadia was at work, one day, when she got a call from the school nurse that her child had been transported to the hospital. She raced to the children’s ward where a doctor informed her that her son had type 1 diabetes and was in the middle of an acute crisis. Her son recovered from the crisis without serious complications. But in the coming weeks, Nadia had to learn how to navigate the medical system, advocate for her child, and apply to cover the cost of insulin.


Sometimes, becoming a caregiver starts gradually, like it did for Michael. Other times, a sudden crisis can lead you to become a caregiver in the blink of an eye.


Regardless of how it happens, caregiving is often overwhelming and exhausting. And, as well as the physical tiredness, the emotional aspect of caring can sap your energy. But here are some things that, as a caregiver, you should know.




The Struggle is Part of the Journey



Know that it’s normal to have weeks or even months when you struggle with your new reality. It’s normal to wish that your life was easier.


But also know that you’re not alone. We're here whenever you need someone to talk with or when you're looking for help or resources.


It's also worth noting that there are coping strategies you can use. For example, journaling is a one helpful way to handle the stress that's a big part of caregiving.